I had lost him. My grandchild was nine years old, and suddenly he wasn’t mine any more.
We had been so close. I saw him every week of his life. We went to the beach on our winter vacation, and when he was a toddler, he slept in crib in my room, so we could have breakfast together before the parents woke up. Later, we would stretch out next to each other on our chaises and comment on the shape of the clouds as they flew by. Now he didn’t come to sit with me on the beach, and he didn’t want to sleep in my room.
I couldn’t understand what I had done, and I was miserable. The last dinner was a cookout on the beach. I sat at the table with his mother. “This was such a great trip,” she said. “You think so?” Tears filled my eyes. She looked surprised. “I’ve lost Benji. He doesn’t want to sit with me on the beach. He wouldn’t stay in my room. I don’t know what happened.”
“He’s growing up,” she said. “I know that, but I’m lost,” I said. “You’ll just have to up your game,” she told me. I had no idea how.
Our plane was delayed the next day, and we had hours in the airport. So the parents took the children into the gift shop. Benji came out with a deck of playing cards.
“Want to play gin, Grandma?” I nodded, shuffled, dealt. We played all the way home. That was the year of gin rummy. I kept a rolling score on a pad of paper, and we played every week. After an hour of cards, he was ready to talk again. By the end of that year, he got tired of the game, even though he was winning by hundreds of points.
But I was the winner. I got him back. It only took a gin rummy deck and a little card sense.