“A valuable road map for maintaining a loving relationship while coping with unreturned phone calls, requests for money, and a different set of values.”
—AARP Magazine 

“[A] groundbreaking exploration of the ties between adult children and their parents.”
—New York Times 

“A gentle guide for the perplexed.”
—O Magazine 

“‘I’m relieved to know I’m not the only one’ will be the response to this much-needed guidebook.”
—Library Journal, starred review 

“Her experience is an example of her most interesting discovery: children are quick to forgive and often the ones who take the initiative in forging a new brand of closeness between themselves and their parents.”
—Publishers Weekly, starred review 

“Jane Isay shines a much-needed light on these years.”
—Po Bronson, author of What Should I Do With My Life 

“With Isay's sage advice, we can make life with our adult children calmer, closer and more enjoyable.”
—Mary Pipher, author of Reviving Ophelia 

“Read it and learn!”
—Judith Viorst, author of I'm Too Young To Be Seventy: And Other Delusions 

"Jane Isay gives us a hope chest of hard-earned wisdom and a-ha moments, and a mirror in which we can safely examine ourselves and our families."
—Rachel Simmons, author of Odd Girl Out: The Hidden Culture of Aggression in Girls 

"I know families; I've worked with thousands for over two decades. But I have yet to find a book about keeping families together, like this one."
—Ron Taffel, Ph.D., author of The Second Family